[ Ian at 2 weeks old; not relevant to post, I just like it! :) ]
Do you ever have those days when you think you are the worst mom ever?
You feel like you are constantly getting onto them for the same old thing... brush your teeth, quit hitting your brother with that light saber, what do you mean you can't remember how to find the area of a rectangle?!, sit up straight, focus!!!, food trash only goes in the kitchen trash can, use a napkin not your sleeve, don't use that tone of voice with your brother...
... over and over and over again.
I just began reading the book 52 Things Kids Need From a Mom: What Mothers Can Do to Make a Lifelong Difference by Angela Thomas.
Since I am such a rule breaker, I jumped ahead to peek at what was up ahead...
Chapter 11: Kids Need Their Mom... To Miss a Few Things They Do Wrong
It is so easy for me to be the people police. To monitor my boys' every move and every word.
Yup, nitpick them in an effort to mold them into perfect adults in miniature form. Can I get more hypocritical? *I* can't even get through a few hours or the day without messing something up or being selfish. What in the world am I thinking to have that expectation of perfection from my children?
It just leads to disappointment and stress for everyone-- myself and my kids!
So tomorrow I am skipping ahead to put into practice Chapter 11 (even though I haven't read Chapter 1).
I do not have to see every thing that they do wrong. Even if I do see it, I don't have to call them on it.
Nag less, extend some grace, focus on the big things, and as cliche as it sounds, don't sweat the small stuff. My perfectionist tendencies need to take a back seat to the relationship I am cultivating with my children.
Do any of y'all struggle in this area? Any advice you want to share with me?