Friday, April 13, 2007

Friends or brothers?

My boys are currently taking a soccer class twice a week during the month of April.  On our first day of class, one of the other homeschooling mom's made an interesting comment.

She asked me which ones were my kids.  I pointed them out to her.  She then said Oh!  They're brothers?!  I thought they were friends!

Ummm...yes, they are brothers.  And YES, they are friends too.  I am so glad they don't have to choose-- they can be both!  I guess she saw them talking to each other, laughing and just playing together.  Imagine that...brothers getting along and seeking each other's company over everyone else.

I hope that this scene will be a normal part of our lives from now until the Lord comes back.  Just today, Tank fell asleep while we were driving.  He passed out and plopped his head sideways...leaning on his big brother's shoulder.  That's the way it should always be, right?  They should always be able to lean on and support each other.  Dash just smiled and said That's okay. He can lean on me.

(By the way, they have a very normal brother relationship that includes lots of competing and fighting and it was encouraging to witness this moment of personal space violation that yielded no bad results!)

That's also how I feel about my own sisters and brother.  I am very blessed to have a close, special and FUN relationship with each of them!

I know not everyone has a sibling (my dh included), but the Bible speaks of this as well:

A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.  ~Proverbs 18:24

Pretty cool, huh?  As much as I love and am close to my family, I can count on JESUS even more! :-)



nsremom said...

I loved this! My two youngest girls are like that as well. Love each others company. The oldest two are like that each other's company. Mix up those combinations? there'll be trouble.....:)

This is a part of homeschooling that I love. Most of the families that I know have the same experience. Family is first.

(and I don't have any close siblings, but a best friend who is now my sister. 'nuff said.)

tn3jcarter said...

You are giving your sons such a wonderful gift by allowing them the time together to cultivate a friendship. Just think how different things would be if they couldn't be together each day.

kateyz said...

Isn't it great that when you homeschool it's ok for your kids to be friends?! Just another bit of homeschool fuel!


jewls2texas said...

Marsha - it is one of THE coolest things that our children get the opportunity to be both siblings and best friends.

Kullen cut his head yesterday and wanted his SISTERS. Even in the homeschooling community this is often a rarity.

Many many times people have said what a rare thing it is that my girls are so close - the older sister never wants to ditch the younger - they wouldn't dream of not being together. What a precious gift. It is one of the BEST things about homeschooling.

Canadagirl said...

Nothing better than a live in friend. (0= I keep telling my ds' that one day mom and dad won't be around so they need to look out for one another ! Earlier the better. (0=

God Bless my SSiC

In Him <><


Amber said...

my 2 oldest boys say they are Best Pals, but they definitely have a normal fighting, argueing, etc. relationship as well. Oh well, we can only do so much.

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Tiany said...

Very cool!

Oh and this sounds just like my boys too, they are best friends and will tell you so! :-) Like yours mine too have plenty of squables but they play together and enjoy eachother most of the time.

Great post!:-)

Have a wonderful Sunday!



sagerats said...

I love it when my children get along and have inside jokes and choose to be with each other. My Dear Man isn't close to his brothers and I'm not close to my sister. This is very hard for a person like me who wants family and unity.

Abiding in the Vine!

BabyCatcher said...

Since my kids are still in school (53 more days)....I have seen my son...who anywhere other than school is a very affectionate brother...shun his sisters hugs just because his classmates might make fun of him...he's also stopped calling me mommy in front of them for the same reasons. I agree with you...they shouldn't have to chose...brothers/sisters or friends...BOTH is better

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DanielleW said...

WOW! What a wonderful testimony! That is just great! Warmed my heart to read it.

StillHisGirl said...

That very succinctly sums up one of the biggest blessings we've reaped from our years of homeschooling. My girls have so much fun together they rarely ask for playdates with other kids. Nothing thrills me more than to hear them giggling together. And nothing makes me more crazy than to hear them bicker. I didn't have a sister, so I'm having fun watching their relationships grow.

Janne said...

I always say that the greatest gift you can give a child is a sibling! That is one of the most wonderful blessings of motherhood -- watching those lifelong friendships being planted and nurtured between our children.

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cammiemelisabray said...

I am not so close to my own siblings. But, my prayer for my children is that they would be. I like to remind them that God has given them each other as a special gift and friend.


SuperAngel said...

I put that b/c Mom has a post she is working on about that!!

Why do peopl expect brothers or sisters to be enemies?? How does that make sense to them??

They are crazy!!

This was a great post!!

Thanks for sharing!!

We had so much fun with the Suarez's!! Come read about it!!


!!SUPERANGEL!! !!Amanda!!

Anonymous said...

I loved this post! I have a boy and a girl that are three years apart. They disagree a lot, but they can also have SO much fun together. This week they've been playing baseball together and I hear them laughing and carrying on outside. Music to my ears!

Your post about your son falling asleep with his head on his brother's shoulder reminded me of a saying I've heard "He's not heavy, he's my brother." I love that!

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